The truth is nobody likes to hear it, and it's bad for you.
A half hour of complaining every day physically damages a person's brain, according to research from Stanford University. Over time, complaining becomes a habit. If you are surrounded by complainers, then you're more likely become one. A half hour of complaining every day physically damages a person's brain.
COMPLAINING CORRECTLY TO GET RESULTS
What we do if we have a problem? winch says complaining the right way may not only create a solution: it can curb anxiety and improve relationships. He offers these seven tips:
1. A COMPLAINT SHOULD HAVE A PURPOSE
It helps calm emotions. We all have limited intellectual resources,"he says ." The more we think about what we want to achieve, the less churning we will do."
2. START WITH A POSITIVE STATEMENT
State something positive, such as the fact that you've been a loyal customer or that you share a common goal. Winch says it makes the person less defensive and more likely to hear what you say next.
3. DELIVER A LEAN COMPLAINT
If the problem has been going on for a while, don't go into each and every detail , says Winch. Instead , talk about the most recent incident. Stick to the facts as much as possible and hold back on emotions.
4. END WITH ANOTHER POSITIVE STATEMENT
Finish your complaint by ending on a high note. Tell the person if the problem is resolved, then it will improve your relationship. Or say something like, "I would really appreciate your help."
5. CONSIDER YOUR LISTENER
If you are complaining to a company, remember the person you're talking to probably didn't make the product or the company policies. If you can't control your emotions, then at least acknowledge them. "You're probably frustrated so when you reach someone who can help you, tell them, 'I'm sorry if I sound annoyed: it's not you, '''' says Winch. "Let them know it's not personal. They will appreciate that."
6. USE SOCIAL MEDIA PROPERLY
Taking complaints to social media can be a double-edge sword. It's easy to use the space for venting, but it can also be effective because many companies monitor their accounts. "If you complain on Twitter or Facebook, you're likely to get a helpful response if you provide enough information for them to contact you, "says Winch.
7. LET IT GO
Whatever the outcome, be prepared to let it go instead of dwelling on it. Taking the time to complain properly can help.
Usually when complaining people you make you feel you the bad person or have an attitude
ReplyDeleteUsually when complaining people you make you feel you the bad person or have an attitude
ReplyDeleteYeah that's true...Complaining damages a person's brain.If you must complain, you should complain to people who can help you solve your problem not the people who will add to it.
ReplyDeleteYeah that's true...Complaining damages a person's brain.If you must complain, you should complain to people who can help you solve your problem not the people who will add to it.
ReplyDeleteIt is obvious that incessant complains could damage a person's brain.In most cases people that complains never get the right answer to what they were complaining about because, their complains were channeled to the wrong place. Therefore, it is important we send our complains to the right source, if only we want our issues or complains to get the right attention as well as the possible solution.
ReplyDeleteI quite agree with you that complaining is deadly to human and we need is to do our best and live the rest for healthy.
ReplyDeleteComplain is easier thing to do,but very dangerous.this is not good for human's health.Never in any away to complain of anything because,it can lead to suicide.Let try to move forward if there are challenges in any way of our life.
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